Happiest of Times?

I really don't know what my issue has been lately. I should be incredibly over the moon happy. But it's not quite that way.
I should be having the time of my life planning this wedding that I've wanted for so long.
Not so much.

Have you ever had those days (weeks, months...) where nothing is really wrong, but everything isn't right?

That's how I feel.

I have so many things spinning around in my head that I can't keep anything straight. And when I sit down to figure out what I need to do, I just become overwhelmed and want to go to bed.

I have 6 months to:
*plan a wedding
*figure out Halloween costumes for 3 children
*Plan and execute Little Miss Sunshine's party {Already have that one figured out}
*Thanksgiving
*Pirate Noah's party {I suppose I have some stuff planned}
*Christmas
*New Years
*Monkey's party {He was going to get something different, but when all else fails, stick with monkey's and he'll be happy}

Not to mention, 19 hours of heavy coursework this semester, final exams sometime between Noah's birthday and Christmas, and starting a new semester after the first of the year.

Any wonder why I just want to pull the covers over my head?

I'm really thankful that I have people in my life who want to help, and will probably be more than willing if I would tell them what to do. But, the 2 people that I want most, won't and can't help.

When I was talking to someone about the wedding recently, I started tearing up when I was describing what I envisioned.

1940's, glitz, glam, big band

I'm getting married on my grandparent's anniversary and want a wedding that would have been common when they were married in the late 40's.

But no matter how many jazz bands I listen to, or birdcage veils that I try on, even though I will have my grandma's ring, I won't have my grandparents. And I always thought I'd at least have my grandpa to walk me down the aisle.

Which brings me to the second person. My mom didn't have my grandma to help her plan her wedding, so I really don't know why she is resisting this wedding so much. But it's tearing me apart. I got some what of a reaction in my dress, but not the over the top "oh my gosh, this is the dress" that you see on TV. I suppose I should know by now that my mom is not the typical mom.

I have to stop letting others dictate my happiness. Just like I can't let one person have that much control over how I feel.

But, it's so much easier to say than do.

Grandpa

My grandpa was and still is one of the most important people in my life. He was amazing. He and my grandma took care of me when I was lit
tle and
my mom was in school. He was still working at the time, but almost every weekend he would take me to 'town'. We would go to McDonald's and go bowling or play putt-putt golf. Sometimes he'd take me to the movies. And then we'd always finish our trip with a visit to the grocery store or WalMart where a Barbie doll would just happen to make its way into our shopping cart.

Growing up, he continued to take me everywhere. We went on a month long road trip that started in Texas, up to Idaho, over to Crater Lake in Oregon and down to California. Thankfully, my older cousin came with us when we left Idaho because in Tracy, California, he hit his head on the bottom of the pool and had short term memory loss.

My grandpa played the clarinet in a band during World War II. He was the reason that I started playing the clarinet. One of my most prized possessions is his still fully functioning clarinet from WWII. Bill Gates could walk in and offer me billions of dollars for it and I'd never get rid of it.

I remember him having tears in his eyes when I'd play him a song. He would tell me how wonderful I played and that I far surpassed him because he could never make a song sound like that.

He passed on a love for Glen Miller, any Big Band music, and an unexplainable love for the Chicago Cubs. He also taught me what it meant to love and have someone believe in me.

He's been gone for 6 years now and there are days that I feel like he's still here. There are times I want to pick up the phone and call him, but am crushed to realize I can't.

When Noah came home from baseball practice with his Cubs hat and jersey, I was so happy. I wanted to call my grandpa and send him the picture.

I always imagined that he would walk me down the aisle and that I would have my dad and my grandpa on either side of me. I always thought I would have him to dance with at my wedding.

It's times like these that are especially hard. I hope that he looks down on me and is proud of me still. I hope that he sees his great grandchildren and knows how much I love him. I hope he is watching every last one of Noah's baseball games.


I miss you so much grandpa. Happy Fathers Day.




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THE Dress

I think that for most women, trying on wedding dresses in the hunt for THE Dress is the most exciting part of the entire wedding.

Have I mentioned that I'm not most women?

Growing up, I envisioned this perfect, cookie cutter type wedding. I would have on an enormous gown with glitz and beads everywhere, a huge tiara, and a chapel length veil with a blusher over my face. I'd walk down the aisle behind my flower girl throwing flowers from her ordinary satin basket.

I just puked a little I just puked a little more

Add to the fact that I'm self conscious, in the process of losing weight, and really don't like trying on any type of clothing, especially a dress. Plus this isn't any dress, this is the dress.

My sister and I went looking for dresses back in March. I didn't find anything remotely worth mentioning except 3 sweet gals at one of the bridal shops. So when my mom decided it was time to go look, we set out to Spokane to dress shop. I have said over and over that I just want something plain. I don't want anything over the top-just simple and elegant.

We went to a rather large retail chain of bridal store's. I'm not mentioning names but the name David was involved. I was not impressed with the lady that was supposed to be helping me. I found 2 dresses that were ok, but I didn't put it on and say it was the dress.

After that, we went back to the small store where my sister and I had gone before. When I walked in the door, I felt at ease and happy. The ladies there are wonderful! You can be polite and still be fake, but you cannot fake genuine interest. I had felt uncomfortable and unhappy earlier when I was trying on dresses. I had about as much interest as someone trying on their prison stripes for their execution. And that is not what wedding dress shopping is supposed to feel like. It is supposed to be exciting and one of the happiest days of your life.

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Long story short, I found my dress and there were tears. There was also name calling and an instance of almost vomiting, but it was all in good fun. I am so thankful that I found 3 wonderful ladies to share that day with

I'm looking for something in white
Something that shimmers in soft candlelight
Everyone calls us the most perfect pair
Should I wear a veil or a rose in my hair
Well,the train must be long and the waist must be tight
I'm looking for something in white
-Lorrie Morgan
Something in Red

It's my party and I'll cry if I want to.

Bright and early this morning I was woken by my 3 year old little monkey jumping on my bed. Stupidly I say, "Can we sleep just a little longer, it's mama's birthday."

Yeah, say it's a birthday to a 3 year old who has been to a few birthday parties that involve cake a fun.

"Oh, mama, it's your birt-day? Oh, we have cake, we sing Happee Birt-day to You."

No, I don't think we'll have cake. Or sing Happy Birthday. Who would make mama's cake?

And this precious boy looks at me like I've asked the world's dumbest question and sighs, "Mama, you always make the birt-day cakes."

Invitations revisited.

I compromised. Meaning, score one for Jeff.

The invites will say Mr. and Mrs. Blah Blah.

But so help me, he better drop the blue or green vest idea.

That is all.

Why Buy Handmade/Homemade

Although times are tough and the economy is certainly not the best, there are still numerous good reasons to buy homemade or handmade items. If you buy handmade items locally, you are supporting local small businesses. Your money stays local. When I make my dresses, bows, or headbands, most of my supplies come from businesses here in the Valley. If I can't find something here, I will turn to Etsy. While Joann Fabrics is not a small business, it is still local. And my purchase helps pay the people's salary who live here.

In addition, your purchase helps the business owner, from stay at home mom's to women who sew and create to help pay for medical bills that are not covered by insurance. When you buy local handmade, you are not padding a big chain store's profits, you are helping people just like you.

I know that sometimes handmade items seem more expensive. Why pay $15-$20 for a tutu when you can find one online for $5? Well, the ones online and the ones sold in some boutique stores are not really handmade. Many of these are ordered from wholesale distributors who receive their products from China. And the labor standards in China are horrendous. Children are working at sewing machines, women are terminated if they become pregnant and in general treated like a commodity that can and will be bought and sold.

One question I ask myself a lot is why would people want to buy my cakes when they can get a large cake from Costco for under $20? Well, there is a huge difference between any cakes from a big chain store and a homemade cake. Most of the big chain store cakes are pre-fabricated, then frozen and shipped to the stores where someone there puts some more pre-fab icing on the cake and sticks it in a cooler. My cakes are made using quality ingredients. There is real butter in all of my cakes and icings. I only bake my cakes the night before they are due to be delivered, that way they are at their freshest for any event. Some cakes use cream cheese, quality cocoa, or even fresh fruit. Each ingredient is precisely measured and then baked for just the right time. If I make a mistake and the cake is overdone, I start over. If I wouldn't serve it to my family, I won't serve it to a customer. I know many other bakers who do the same thing.

Personally, I want to see my money stay local, so I will support handmade. Feel free to ask people questions. Ask where they get their supplies or if they buy from a wholesaler. Most people will be honest. And if someone tries to evade the question, it might raise some red flags. I welcome any questions about my products. And while I probably won't give you my secret white cake recipe, I will tell you that it is all from scratch, I use real butter, not butter flavoring, real vanilla, not imitation, and I separate the eggs and just use the whites.

Top 5 Reason My Children Will Land me in a Mental Institution

1) Isaiah, I'm really glad you have learned to use the potty. But please, when you want to dump your little bucket "all by yourself" don't wave it up and down. It flings your pee everywhere. I when I say everywhere, I mean everywhere...even my foot.

2) Noah, stop debating me. I'm the boss, you are not.

3) Elizabeth, no more screeching-EVER!

4) To the boys-Will it kill you to be nice for 5 minutes? Stop taking toys, yelling at each other, or in general being little meanies.

5) If your sibling is playing with a toy and I ask you to clean up- Leave the one toy that s/he is happily playing with ALONE!